It’s easy to hate them, right? When people make mistakes, they usually react quite negatively to the occurrence. They will cry, shout, complain, and even engage in further self destructive behavior. The magnitude of the mistake generally dictates how extreme of a response the mistake-doer will have.
Let’s say Joe loses his wallet. That’s certainly a mistake if I’ve heard of one. Joe ends up walking up and down his house cursing up a storm, raising his blood pressure, and maintaining a lowkey bad mood as he progresses through his day.
We can all relate to Joe, lol.
Now let’s say Jackie gets caught pink-handed cheating on her girlfriend. :0 That’s a HUGE mistake that I know at least 32% of you can relate to. Jackie hates herself for what she’s done, and has taken to drinking copious amounts of whiskey while watching “The Office” reruns. It’s okay, right? This is just the mourning period that all humans go through, right? Eh. I’ll get to that.
Finally, we have Dustin. Now Dustin, let’s say he’s sort of a walking mistake at this point. He got caught doing cocaine at his office job and has been subsequently fined and fired. (Why wasn’t he arrested? Lets just say he has some privilege lol.) Not only that, but his co-workers took pics of him all powder-nosed and posted them on Facebook, so now his family and friends all know what’s up.
But Dustin’s brain is different from everyone else’s, and it’s not because of the drugs. :p See, he takes responsibility for all of his actions and current situation. Sure, it would be easy to hate himself for being so incredibly stupid. It would be easy to hate the co-worker that reported him to the boss while the others documented the event. It would be easy to despise the company’s drug policy and employment decisions.
It’s IMPOSSIBLE, yes, impossible, to grow as a human if you’re always looking for a scapegoat and shifting responsibility to anyone but yourself. So what does Dustin do? It’s obvious, right?
He gets his act together. He owns up to his ginormous mistake not only to himself, but to anyone who confronts him about it. Over the course of three months he successfully cuts the Coco out of his life and starts his own business.
Thanks to that mistake, Dustin is his own boss. Thanks to that mistake he’s sober. Thanks to that mistake he’s happier than he was strung out on his couch higher than the Empire State building.
We should all be like Dustin…
As in we should use every mistake we make to fuel the behaviours we want to embody. I took a huge L just last week when I was at DragonCon in Atlanta, Georgia. I ended up being so late to my MegaBus that I had to scramble to the Greyhound station and buy THE LAST TICKET to Chicago they had.
They literally only had one ticket left AND it was Labor Day, so humans everywhere were traveling frantically. That station was packed to the brim with bodies, but I bought that 16 hour long ride for $165.
My Megabus ticket cost me $10
Safe to say, I was incredibly upset for a bit. Sure, I could blame Google Maps for sending me down the wrong street and having me walk much further than the station was located. Hell, I could blame the Megabus for choosing this one day to depart right on time. Fam, it would’ve been so easy for me to hate myself. (I did, for about an hour. :p)
But I took responsibility for not ensuring that I knew exactly where I was supposed to be going, and not departing much earlier to account for any possible mistakes. Now I’ve been much more conscious about this concept called “time” and how deadlines are so important to keep track of.
So please remember this next time you mess something up, whether you lose a friendship or lose your wallet, they are only ever opportunities for growth. And as long as you’re growing, loving yourself isn’t nearly as difficult than it would be if you didn’t invest in that beautiful brain of yours.